need to be perfect

Brown notes that many of us are raised in a culture that values binary thinking, where things are either good or bad, and people are either brave or afraid. This can lead to a belief that we need to be perfect in order to be worthy of love and acceptance. However, Brown argues that this belief is harmful and unrealistic, as it sets us up for constant self-criticism and shame.
She encourages to practice self-compassion and to cultivate a sense of worthiness that is not dependent on external validation or achievement.